A Guide to Non-Religious Wedding Readings

What makes a wedding reading non-religious?

A non-religious wedding reading is simply a piece of text chosen for the ceremony that does not invoke faith, scripture, or divine blessing. It might be a poem, a short prose passage, a song lyric, or even words written by the couple themselves. The best secular readings speak to love, commitment, partnership, and the shared life ahead — without leaning on religious language.

Why choose a non-religious reading?

• One or both partners do not hold religious beliefs.
• The ceremony is being held in a non-religious venue.
• The couple wants the language of the day to feel inclusive for guests of all backgrounds.
• They want the reading to reflect their personal values rather than tradition.

How long should a non-religious wedding reading be?

Most ceremony readings sit between one and three minutes when spoken aloud. Around 150–350 words is a comfortable length. Shorter readings can be paired together, while a single longer piece should be chosen carefully so it does not dominate the ceremony.

Where does a reading fit in the ceremony?

Readings usually appear after the entrance and welcome, and before or after the vows and ring exchange. Some couples place a reading just after the officiant's opening words, to set the emotional tone. Others use it as a transition between the vows and the exchange of rings. If you have more than one reader, space them out so the ceremony keeps its rhythm.

Who should read at your wedding?

A close friend, sibling, or parent is a natural choice. The reader should feel comfortable speaking in front of a group and should connect with the words they are reading. Give them the text well in advance so they can practise pacing and emphasis. A rehearsal run-through the day before is always worthwhile.

What themes work well for secular readings?

• Partnership and equality — two people choosing each other freely.
• Adventure and the unknown — stepping into the future together.
• Everyday love — the small, repeated acts that build a life.
• Friendship as the foundation of romance.
• Nature, time, and place — imagery that grounds the moment without invoking faith.

Can we write our own non-religious reading?

Yes. A reading written by the couple or by a close friend can be the most meaningful part of the ceremony. Keep it under three minutes, use concrete details rather than abstract ideas, and read it aloud several times before the day to make sure the rhythm feels natural.